How to measure your life

“People who are driven to excel have this unconscious propensity to underinvest in their families and overinvest in their careers.” Don’t let this happen to your life. A solution to this mentality is to maintain a strong core purpose that forces / drives short term decision-making for the long term. To have a clear purpose, you have to think long and hard about it. And then you have to keep it top-of-mind to guide your personal resource allocation. How you spend your personal TIME, ENERGY and TALENT. ...

7 May 2026 · 1 min · Stephanie Rebecca

Psycho Cybernetics

Maxwell Maltz was an American cosmetic surgeon, he discovered that improving a patient’s physical appearance did not change their internal self-image. Your self-image is the operating system. (sidenote: links to Wilson’s idea of meta-programming consciousness itself. Maltz teaches one to build a stronger self-image, while Wilson teaches you to realize self-images are programmable illusions.) You do not outperform the identity you subconsciously believe yourself to be. Change the self-image first, behavior follows automatically. ...

7 May 2026 · 2 min · Stephanie Rebecca

Reality Transurfing Steps I-V

One Liner: This book is good, but many in the domain of self-development echo it’s ideas, and in itself an echo of the ideas echoed by spirituality/ the The Tao Te Ching / gnosticism/ religious mysticism (Kaballah etc.) I wish I read this as a teenager before the secret, some of it feels intuitive. Key Ideas The Alternatives Space (Infinite Realities Exist Simultaneously) Life is like a film strip with infinite frames. Every possibility already exists in the alternatives space a quantum field of potential realities. ...

7 May 2026 · 2 min · Stephanie Rebecca

The art of learning

Waitzkin describes a transition from force into immersion. Less egoic striving, more total absorption. My fascination with consciousness, study of chess and Tal Chi, love for literature and the ocean, for meditation and philosophy, all coalesced around the theme of tapping into the mind’s potential via complete immersion into one and all activities. My growth My growth became defined by barrierlessness. Pure concentration didn’t allow thoughts or false constructions to impede my awareness, and I observed clear connections between different life experiences through the common mode of consciousness by which they were perceived . . Great literature inspired chess growth, shooting jump shots on a New York City blacktop gave me insight about fluidity that applied to Tai Chi, becoming at peace holding my breath seventy feet underwater as a free-diver helped me in the time pressure of world championship chess or martial arts competitions. Training in the ability to quickly lower my heart rate after intense physical strain helped me recover between periods of exhausting concentration in chess tournaments. After several years of cloudiness, I was flying free, devouring information, completely in love with learning . ...

7 May 2026 · 2 min · Stephanie Rebecca